So recently I was hanging out with a large group of friends and there was a scene where they girls said he wasn’t going to get the yes because he had no confidence. As I look back I can say the only times that I have ever had dates was when I was comfortable and confident. But what does that look like?
Confidence looks like being able to ask inspite of the possibility of rejection. Having something going on in your life, the is interesting and promising. Having the prospect of being able to provide for a family. Being sure of yourself and what you are doing, and having the maturity to not flaunt it in everyone’s face.
I can now answer this because I have been dating a wonderful woman for the last few weeks. Our problems started 2 months prior to asking her out, but my determination, dedication, and patience won her over. As I began to ask what finally changed I realized that these were the characteristics that defined confidence. At the same time while talking to another friend I came to realize the juxtaposition of what he lacked vs what I was now showing. Ironically being confident and happy in your place in life is what I have come to understand that most women are looking for, not necessarily the absolute plan and having it all.